saw this weeks ago (like...one week, I guess? ok time) and wanted to HARD +1 all of it and say that this aspect:
But as much as I like feeling cute, I just... think of myself as a low-maintenance person.
is very much a part of my self-identity, I think. Because I like to think of myself as not needing things that are not, like, nutrition and shelter, and also because I value comfort above all else, and also probably because I early on got the (admittedly-false) memo that "cool girls are low effort" and was like "yes, I would like to not have to put any work or money into my appearance ever again, thank you for this out!"
The haircut is my #1 (and possibly only?) strong queer/gender-fuckery signal, but it only works because because my partner cuts it for me and I can ask him to "make there be less of it and in a weird way, but I don't care how" i.e. I still don't have to make decisions or spend money. I suspect if that was not the case I'd just have a self-inflicted perma-buzzcut. (Also, a secondary complaint: queercuts take so much work to maintain! Like, a sharp buzzline is a haircut every few weeks?! SO MUCH WORK. I gave up shaving for a reason!)
But it also makes sense that craftiness would be an effective tactic to navigate that, so yay! Especially when your nails end up looking that cute! I saw elsewhere you wondering about lace, and now I've looked it up, and it's so beautiful; best of luck with future body-craft!
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Date: 2019-02-25 07:22 pm (UTC)is very much a part of my self-identity, I think. Because I like to think of myself as not needing things that are not, like, nutrition and shelter, and also because I value comfort above all else, and also probably because I early on got the (admittedly-false) memo that "cool girls are low effort" and was like "yes, I would like to not have to put any work or money into my appearance ever again, thank you for this out!"
The haircut is my #1 (and possibly only?) strong queer/gender-fuckery signal, but it only works because because my partner cuts it for me and I can ask him to "make there be less of it and in a weird way, but I don't care how" i.e. I still don't have to make decisions or spend money. I suspect if that was not the case I'd just have a self-inflicted perma-buzzcut. (Also, a secondary complaint: queercuts take so much work to maintain! Like, a sharp buzzline is a haircut every few weeks?! SO MUCH WORK. I gave up shaving for a reason!)
But it also makes sense that craftiness would be an effective tactic to navigate that, so yay! Especially when your nails end up looking that cute! I saw elsewhere you wondering about lace, and now I've looked it up, and it's so beautiful; best of luck with future body-craft!